If I were...

[sometimes_miss]

If I were a woman or transitioned from male to female, I would probably be wondering why all of these cute guys want to wear women's clothes. I have a friend who transitioned from male to female. She refuses to let her SO crossdress as she wants a "man". Evidently once we join the other "camp" we become a real part of it. What would your feelings be in this regard?

Most people have no idea why they have the feelings that they do. When they fall in love, it's all 'chemistry' to them; they have no idea where the desires come from. Mostly, it's from genetically influenced hormomal reactions and the experiences they've had in their life. Women are 'wired' to be attracted to, and find sexually desirable, males who display what is referred to as 'alpha male' behavior. Men wearing female attire or behaving as a female kills any attraction for >99% of women. And as women rely on men for protection, it also makes women feel insecure when her man is suddenly revealed to be less of the masculine person she initially thought he was.
As far as your friend's SO not wanting her man to crossdress, well, sometimes we do things to help us maintain the illusion that 'everything's just normal'. Lots of people keep their 'head in the sand' about many subjects because to accept the reality, would make them feel insecure. So they prefer to remain delusional and keep thinking everything's fine.

[docrobbysherry]

[SIZE="5"]THERE R NO RULES![/SIZE]

[SIZE="2"]So, I have no idea what I'd do!:brolleyes:[/SIZE]

[Kate Simmons]

My friend met her SO when they were both members of a TG Org, so she previously knew about his penchant for CDing. My own personal take on it would be that even if I transitioned I would look at my previous life as a learning experience and would never seek to deny it or minimize it and utilize the experience to continue moving forward as a person and never attempt to judge someone else. One thing I have learned in this life is that it is the person who counts and not so much that they are "this, that or the other thing."

[Cheryl T]

I don't know how I'd feel about it if I transitioned because I would still want to be with a woman (one in particular... hi hun).

[joannemarie barker]

If I transitioned I'd want to be with a man.why? Because I already do :D and I could care less if he liked wearing women's clothes,at the end of the day they come off

[Ava Tryptyk]

I think it would be fun to be a girl/woman, but I'm still happy with my life as a guy so I'm not planning to make any transitions.
I simply am interested in the feel and look of women's clothing.

Also, I don't think that crossdressing (if it's strictly just dressing, without any transitioning or identity changes) necessarily makes you less masculine or less manly. If you were manly before you crossdressed, it's not like you're going to forget how to be a man if you need to. It's more like a new world is open to you that a lot of men simply don't explore.

I'm still heterosexual, and for marriage and/or intimate relations I'm still only interested in a girl (GG).

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I would still want to be with my wife, I have often said that I am a lesbian and if I did transition I would surely stay a lesbian.