Would you ever tell employers that you cross dress?

[Eryn]

an ad agency in San Francisco or a fashion house in London might be more open to it than a mechanic's garage in a small town somewhere.

I can think of one exception to this. Back in the 1960s there was a farming town of 2000 people or so near the place where I was growing up. There was a man there who (gasp!) wore dresses. He was the first TG person I had ever knowingly encountered. His dressing was well known and the local thrift shop would even set aside large-size dresses for him when they came in. You'd think that in a conservative 1960s rural community that a CDer would catch a lot of heat, but this one didn't. The reason was that he was the best d**n Diesel mechanic for over 100 miles and nobody was going to be responsible for losing his expertise!

Funny how reasonable people can be if it is in their self-interest!

OTOH, I now live in a state where TG rights are fairly well protected, but I would never come out to my employer. It would just be a complication that I don't need.