Should We Refer To Ourselves as Sissies?

[whowhatwhen]

Mine says "Shredded Wheat", but I'm not sure how to take that really.

[JiveTurkeyOnRye]

To me, it's not so much that the term itself is derogatory, as much as it has now become sort of the title of a specific fetish, and it's a fetish that equates femininity with weakness, submissiveness, and humiliation. I don't really like what it represents, I can't shake the air of misogyny and, I feel, some self-loathing transphobia within it.

So, as far as the old schoolyard slur goes, no I don't let stuff like that get to me, don't give words power and they have no power over you. But when it comes to self-identification, I prefer not to be confused with that other segment.

[PretzelGirl]

Well, there aren't too many opinions on this are there? But back to the real OP:

I do not know, it is kinda a derogatory label. Maybe dressing as women, we should consider ourselves with empowerment such as vixens instead. Just a thought.

We? No. There is nothing that everyone can agree on that We would all call ourselves. But each individual has a choice to call themselves whatever they want.

[Badtranny]

Just another thing for overly sensitive people to be sensitive about. I haven't been called a sissy since I was in Junior High, but if somebody were to try and insult me with that word, I would just look at them and say "is that the best you can do?" like Steve Martin in Roxanne, "you have THIS to work with and the best you can think of is sissy?".

I'm a pariah in some trans circles because I have no issue with the word "tranny". Whatever. Words only have the power that you give them and I'm not 12 years old anymore, so I'm no longer in the business of investing in other people's hate.

[whowhatwhen]

I guess it's moot since there is no such thing as a TG hivemind and not everyone will agree.
Thank god though, can you imagine the attack ads when trying to choose the queen bee?

[JohnH]

"Sissy" implies someone who is weak-willed and is a namby-pamby. We on the other hand have the courage to break out of the rigid mould imposed on men in our society.

A sissy is someone who drinks Arbor Mist "wine".
A sissy is someone who drinks Coors light "beer".

A sissy would want to wear the mousy clothing and shoes as shown in Haband instead of the bolder clothing and shoes in Jessica London.

John

[BillieJoEllen]

I had a hard time as a child because for some reason a lot of my friends and members of my family that I looked up to called me a 'sissy'. I struggled my entire childhood trying to prove how much of a boy I was. I needed my father's support and approval. I got into wrestling and weight lifting. Now that I'm older and want to present more as a woman I regret taking up those sports. I've had a hard time having to live down being called a 'sissy'. Being forced into girl's clothes one summer afternoon was highly embarrassing. Being used as a dress model by my mother was hard to live down. Having an uncle of mine show around a picture of me at 3 1/2 yrs of age in a baptismal gown two Christmases ago brought up many of my relatives memories of me when I was less than boyish. It is to me a very derogatory term. I speak from experience.

[Kathy Smith]

Personally I don't like the term - being applied to me at least. I suppose it's horses for courses though; if you feel as if you should be called "sissy" then that's up to you.

[Lorenqt]

I don't really identify myself as a sissy. If someone wishes to call themselves that, that's their call.

[carhill2mn]

IMHO referring to ourselves as "sissies" is very degrading!

[Bree-asaurus]

Quick search: 130 of our 19000 members promote themselves as sissies by including the term in their username. Quite the minority it seems :P

[kimdl93]

Quick search: 130 of our 19000 members promote themselves as sissies by including the term in their username. Quite the minority it seems :P

That would seem to settle the matter , Thanks for dong the research, Bree!

[Tamara Croft]

That would seem to settle the matter , Thanks for dong the research, Bree!

But those stats are wrong. Variants of the word, sissy, sissi, sissie bring a total of: - 284 out of a total of : -33,241 members

[kimdl93]

But those stats are wrong. Variants of the word, sissy, sissi, sissie bring a total of: - 284 out of a total of : -33,241 members

Thanks for doing the additonal verification, Tamara! Now perhaps the subject will at last be put to rest!

[Bree-asaurus]

But those stats are wrong. Variants of the word, sissy, sissi, sissie bring a total of: - 284 out of a total of : -33,241 members

lol... but I think that may be a little off. Is the total members number you have including banned, and closed accounts? Just wondering because the member list shows 19126 members. Not that it matters, it's still less than 1% :P

[Tamara Croft]

Banned members aren't counted in the total, besides, there are no members with that name banned. And you can only see the members who have posted, not the members who have a 0 post count. I don't need to sit and count them, I just to a search in the admin panel and it brings up the total for me

[Misti]

I do not know, it is kinda a derogatory label.

B, I haven't read a single post beyond MsArlene's, and I don't have to.

In a word, "NO." Period.

[StaceyJane]

I don't consider myself a sissy nor do I consider GG's to be sissy's.

[lmildcd]

I don't consider myself a sissy. I like to put on a dress or skirt with panties and bra from time to time. I call myself a mild cross dresser since I don't dress much.

[Ressie]

Not as a group of crossdressers. I'm sure there are sissy forums for those that choose to be in that sub classification. From what I see, a sissy also considers their self a bottom or sub and many want to be degraded. I don't mean to offend anyone and if I'm wrong let me know.

The word has it's place, but the answer is NO.

[BettyCooper]

From my experience I find that "sissy" and its implications is a turn-on for some, and for others is a turn-off. I would suggest that if you like calling yourself that you should, and that you should only call others that after having determined that they would like you too.
Love,
Betty

[LilSissyStevie]

No! Absolutely not! You first have to pay your dues. You first need to experience the slaps to the back of the head on the school bus, the trips in the hallway, the books slapped out of your hand, being pushed down the stairwell, the girls laughing at your pathetic attempts to show interest, your pant pulled down if front of everybody... beatings and humiliations without end. You need to be called, in addition to “sissy”, fairy, pansy, pu$$y, dweeb, dork, faggot, queer, homo... and you have to come to believe it. You must one day realize that you really do belong with all your freaky friends: scrubs, fats, nerds, nose pickers and pants wetters. You're happy the day you were picked before your friend the fat kid for the soccer team. Then there is the sobs under the covers, the self hate, the depression, suicide obsession, counselors and doctors, medications, psych wards and hospitals, addictions and alcoholism until you are standing at the edge staring into the abyss deciding whether to jump.

If you come through all of that, THEN you can look in the mirror and say, “I am a sissy, but unlike my tormentors, I'm not a coward or a weakling.” I don't hide behind authority or numbers. I can't fight but I don't back down. A male but not a man, girly but not a girl, I am my own gender. You can't just throw on some frilly frock and call yourself a sissy. It has to be earned.

[KellyJameson]

This word interests me because of the implications associated with it, I'm repelled by it but also intrigued.

Often used as a label of derision for boys who express the same emotions as girls such as crying or showing in some way their feelings have been hurt or a reluctance to be injured or avoiding aggressive behavior and acts this was a powerful tool in forcing men to shut down emotionally to prepare them for a future of violence.

The word has been adopted as a symbolic label of extreme passivity but this creates a paradox because if you are able to "act passive" than you really are not because the reality is true passivity is not an act but a statement of circumstance so by default not a choice.

To act passive is to make a slave out of the master, this is a very powerful ability because it's power is hidden from the master who thinks they are the one in a position of power. Aspects of feminine seduction use this to extreme advantage as well as certain children to manipulate adults with, it is a relationship of two different forms of complementary power.

I understand the disgust and revulsion with the concept because to willingly or unwillingly be submissive,humiliated and dominated can be terrifying and appears to be a disease that is anti-life but the word and the idea behind it has hidden powers.

The concerns I have are that the acts are used to repeat childhood traumas in an attempt to make acts of past evil normal to heal a shattered sense of ones own value, this keeps the victim living as a perpetual victim.

[drushin703]

Jive turker on rye is right on point. I am a sissie but only in the coloqual sense where familiar conversations and common references might include me.If to be
a sissie is to mean the group that frequents cd.com for insight and answers for what and why they are, then I am one.My neighbor referes to me as" his
sissie next door", so in effect, he, by coloring me a dimunitive, can take a sort of ownership of me..HIS sissie next door(?). If you happen to look at the
images on Flicker, in a lot of cases, those who call themselves sissies are so far removed from the beauty of transvestism, that some of the images
will make you blush... If dressing up in a pink baby outfit with an oversized diaper on with bib and mathing hat, sucking on a pacifier makes you a sissie
then the tempeture has been taken....this hackneyed word and term should forever be discontinued.....dana

[NathalieX66]

"Sissy" is a subculture of CD'ers that is primarily into S&M, submisson and the whole sissy maid thing, gay or straight. It's not really my bag, though in do confess to owning a few frilly little girl style dresses that some interpret as "sissy"
I'm not happy with the term sissy either.
When I am out & about, I just simply want to be the other gender.