Should We Refer To Ourselves as Sissies?

[LilSissyStevie]

No! Absolutely not! You first have to pay your dues. You first need to experience the slaps to the back of the head on the school bus, the trips in the hallway, the books slapped out of your hand, being pushed down the stairwell, the girls laughing at your pathetic attempts to show interest, your pant pulled down if front of everybody... beatings and humiliations without end. You need to be called, in addition to “sissy”, fairy, pansy, pu$$y, dweeb, dork, faggot, queer, homo... and you have to come to believe it. You must one day realize that you really do belong with all your freaky friends: scrubs, fats, nerds, nose pickers and pants wetters. You're happy the day you were picked before your friend the fat kid for the soccer team. Then there is the sobs under the covers, the self hate, the depression, suicide obsession, counselors and doctors, medications, psych wards and hospitals, addictions and alcoholism until you are standing at the edge staring into the abyss deciding whether to jump.

If you come through all of that, THEN you can look in the mirror and say, “I am a sissy, but unlike my tormentors, I'm not a coward or a weakling.” I don't hide behind authority or numbers. I can't fight but I don't back down. A male but not a man, girly but not a girl, I am my own gender. You can't just throw on some frilly frock and call yourself a sissy. It has to be earned.

[drushin703]

Jive turker on rye is right on point. I am a sissie but only in the coloqual sense where familiar conversations and common references might include me.If to be
a sissie is to mean the group that frequents cd.com for insight and answers for what and why they are, then I am one.My neighbor referes to me as" his
sissie next door", so in effect, he, by coloring me a dimunitive, can take a sort of ownership of me..HIS sissie next door(?). If you happen to look at the
images on Flicker, in a lot of cases, those who call themselves sissies are so far removed from the beauty of transvestism, that some of the images
will make you blush... If dressing up in a pink baby outfit with an oversized diaper on with bib and mathing hat, sucking on a pacifier makes you a sissie
then the tempeture has been taken....this hackneyed word and term should forever be discontinued.....dana

[NathalieX66]

"Sissy" is a subculture of CD'ers that is primarily into S&M, submisson and the whole sissy maid thing, gay or straight. It's not really my bag, though in do confess to owning a few frilly little girl style dresses that some interpret as "sissy"
I'm not happy with the term sissy either.
When I am out & about, I just simply want to be the other gender.

[darla_g]

i always thought that term had real strong negative connotation within the CD community

[Bree-asaurus]

No! Absolutely not! You first have to pay your dues. You first need to experience the slaps to the back of the head on the school bus, the trips in the hallway, the books slapped out of your hand, being pushed down the stairwell, the girls laughing at your pathetic attempts to show interest, your pant pulled down if front of everybody... beatings and humiliations without end. You need to be called, in addition to “sissy”, fairy, pansy, pu$$y, dweeb, dork, faggot, queer, homo... and you have to come to believe it. You must one day realize that you really do belong with all your freaky friends: scrubs, fats, nerds, nose pickers and pants wetters. You're happy the day you were picked before your friend the fat kid for the soccer team. Then there is the sobs under the covers, the self hate, the depression, suicide obsession, counselors and doctors, medications, psych wards and hospitals, addictions and alcoholism until you are standing at the edge staring into the abyss deciding whether to jump.

If you come through all of that, THEN you can look in the mirror and say, “I am a sissy, but unlike my tormentors, I'm not a coward or a weakling.” I don't hide behind authority or numbers. I can't fight but I don't back down. A male but not a man, girly but not a girl, I am my own gender. You can't just throw on some frilly frock and call yourself a sissy. It has to be earned.

I, like many people, have been through similar situations and would never consider myself a sissy.

Being bullied and having issues doesn't make you a sissy. But if that's what you want to call yourself, go right on ahead