You have a strong presence so this should be very complementary to your partner because I do not sense any reluctance in you for taking the initiative.
Think of a woman, many become sexually frustrated because they presure themselves to climax and the goal destroys the desire, this also happens to men when their hormones quiet down and they do not feel like pressure cookers ready to explode. Do not approach love making like a job with tasks that must be accomplished. Any thought in your mind that lives in the past or future that holds the words (how,what,where,when or should) throw away.
Enjoy each other with sensitivity, laughter,curiosity and exploration (learn together without fear) with no thought for the destination. If it feels like work something is amiss, stay in the moment.
I live very close to nature so have no knowledge of man made items used for the purpose of sex so cannot be helpful in this fashion.
