Hi all,
So I put this to those of you who have been there before me for some ideas. Or those gg's who understand how my wife is feeling if they can offer some ideas on what I might be able to do to refresh or renew our relationship and give her the proper attention she needs.
I know the answer should be obvious, right? Well, here is some helpful background, then let me know what you think.
I haven't been as active on the forum as I would like of late. This is because I have been a bit happier (due to coming out to many family and friends) and I am getting my passion back for things I never realized I had lost. So my time is spent focusing (yes I can focus again) on things like work, family and friends. What little time I have to myself I use for transitioning activities (laser, therapy, HRT etc...) and writing my weekly blog. So here is a bit about me to refresh your memories.
I am a (yet undecided op) transsexual woman in my late 40's, married with two girls that are still in school (7th and 5th). My wife has been a true champion in dealing with this change in our lives. We still have many good moments but we also have some really difficult moments as I am sure many of you are aware.
My wife has been feeling a bit abandoned. I can't say that I blame her, I have been self absorbed into my own issues and my family has been paying special attention to me as they are probably unsure how to deal with the new daughter, sister, aunt what have you. We haven't yet told her family. It is on the horizon and that has her a bit stressed as well.
Now that I am finally in a good place, I would like to give her the attention she deserves. I want to do something special for her as well that will really give her that warm fuzzy feeling inside. My problem is I am at a loss as to what I should do.
You would think that being married to her for 19 years that I should know her well enough to come up with something. The problem is that many of the parameters have changed. For example, she can not accept certain gifts from me; such as jewelry and things "girly" specific.
So, give this brief backdrop can anyone offer some constructive help.
If you want more background feel free to look at my blog. However know that if you do you are in for a long read.
Thank you.