Ask-a-gg

[Mimi]

Here's a question then. I am a CD and TG. I feel a strong female presence in myself. But I'm not TS or thinking SRS or radical changes. My wife is on board and she has been just great through this slow emergence. I've now let my female side out (not really cding but, well, just being me - a woman in my world) to other women. I have interests that are more typically female (ie Gardening - I love gardening). So I am expanding those interests and consequently am now among groups of women (there is like 20% men). I feel very at-home in groups of girls. No pressure, not much competition - good conversations - we talk family, kids, food, life etc. It's so good. I don't want my wife to feel insecure in any way but I value these relationships with other women. I'm committed to my wife totally. Totally. But she and I have different interests outside each other. So: would you feel insecure or jealous or whatever if it were you? I do talk to her about it. Only she knows me in a complete vulnerable way and I couldn't imagine that with anyone else. Thoughts?

It wouldn't bother me to have my spouse involved in different activities from me if we didn't share the same interests. There is nothing worse than a resentful spouse at an activity that bores them when they are attending the activity because it is expected that they have to do everything together. At the same time, it is important for the couple to also find things that they do enjoy doing together, so there is a balance--her activities she does without you, your activities you do without her, and the shared activities you both enjoy. It is also important that you both feel free to discuss what you did at your separate activities so there is no feeling of secrecy, or that one of you is hiding something from the other.

I think this is a fantastic idea! Thank you Mods! I miss reading the questions and the answers from out GG members in the old format. Frankly, I enjoy reading anything from a GG then from other CD's. Hey, don't hate me for it, but I get so bored with some of the what are you wearing type threads. To get into the minds of our beloved GG members is educational and very interesting.

So now, feeling honored to ask the first question: I wonder if most of the GG's feel they get as much help and support from us CD's as they do from their own FAB section?
And am I right to assume that most GG's prefer the LOVED ONES section to other Forum categories ? ( as I do)

I prefer the Loved Ones forum to the other sections because I feel that I can relate to more of the posts. Much of what is discussed in the MtF forums doesn't apply to me. That's fine--I'm not bothered by it, I just don't read many of the posts. As for support--I do get more support from FAB because that's the purpose of FAB--a place where we can vent or ask questions or be there for each other without fear of offending or upsetting the other members of this site.