Tara,
Everyone is an individual and will have their own reasons for doing things. I won't get into specific details, but I am very much attracted to Crystal no matter what she (or he) is wearing. I just love every fiber of that whole person so much -'warts and all,' just like Cromwell - that it transcends gender and outward expression of gender has become in and of itself another activity we share that is all the more special because we do it together. We took our time together and talked about every last little thing so we completely agreed on everything we have done and are all the more close together because of it.