and there you have it. I have said many times that there is equity you build in a relationship. the longer the relationship the more equity. When you wait then you start to have things that you didn't before. Feelings get stronger and thus the hurt gets deeper. People resent it when you waste their time. They resent it even more when they believe they have a solid relationship with you. You want to see a hurt look? Wait until your GF thinks that everything is sunshine and roses, That you ride a white charger. Then tell her. Watch the look of confusion and then hurt. You are building trust. Think of trust as a huge wall (or tower) and you pull the lynchpin block out. If that wall is only two layers high, you are disapponted but you say, "hey that isn't much to rebuild" If that wall is 50 layers and you pull that brick, then you watch as everything you have worked for crumbles. Some will rebuild from this, some will rebuild better. Most will walk away shaking theitr heads and mumbling.Originally Posted by Sandra
Continuing the analogy, you tell her early in the building process, you can make sure that brick is in there solid. That if it is a problem you can either work around it or make it stronger.
It may or may not be an issue but really wouldn't you want to know earlier so you can move on if needed?
