When should I tell my girlfriend....

[Amy R Lynn]

People normally disclose more and more personal things about themselves as the relationship deepens and the bond between you grows. Are the two of you beginning to talk about the more personal stuff, i.e. your deeper feelings about life, your goals, your childhoods, your past loves, your past joys & hurts, your disappointments, the more vulnerable things about yourselves, etc?

How serious is this relationship? Do you talk to each other every day and is there a mutual agreement that you are not seeing anyone else? If you're at that point and there is chemistry between you, then you should tell her now.

If you're still in a casual sort of arrangement with more general types of conversation, then it's not yet time. No one can put a time limit on this. It's a question of how serious you feel about one another.

We have started talking a little more about some personal stuff lately. But the relationship is still very early. I can't really say whether this is going to be a long term relationship as of yet. There does seems to be some chemistry that I haven't felt with any of my other dates. I like to think that it will be long term, but its still early. We still have a lot of getting to know each other I think. Our conversations are mostly general conversations, and haven't gotten into deep feelings. We have talked past child hoods, goals, and past loves. I think I'm going to wait a bit longer. I just don't feel that the timing is quite right yet.

As for worrying about her telling all of her friends that I'm a girlie boy, I'm not too worried. I don't know very many of her friends on a personal basis. They are her friends and don't really have much connection to anyone I know. So... if it blows up in my face, I'll live to fly again.