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I'm new to all of this so please be gentle!
I'll try.

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My new boyfriend has just informed me he is a crossdresser.
Congratulations. You've entered a new, interesting phase of life.

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Are most of the crossdressers on here fulltime and wanting to be women?
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But my boyfriend has insisted this is just an occasional fetish, entirely sexual and something he's been doing his whole life. He's also somewhat older than me and says there is no chance it will change to something more as he's reached his comfort level and is very content.

So is anyone else on here an occasional fetish dresser like my boyfriend? Or am I in the wrong place and this site is for those wanting to live as women? Sorry if I seem ignorant but I'll be honest and say that researching here has made me feel more confused and scared.
I can't profess to speak for most crossdressers, but I can speak to human nature and my personal experiences. I'm going to speak in generalities with the awareness that that is exactly what they are. They're also only my opinion.

Here are the bombshells:

1. Crossdressing is progressive, given the appropriate environment.
2. Crossdressing is as addictive as any drug.

If you take those as fact, it is easy to draw the following conclusion:

The more you crossdress, the more you want to crossdress.

So, what do you do? Go down the rabbit hole like my SO did? She's been completely encouraging and I crossdress all the time. She loves it and really has no concern about whether or not I'm a boy or a girl. The reaction is always the same; love.

My advice is, if you want to keep it in the bedroom, you better lay down some rules about when, where and how often. Be aware the more rope you give, the more he will take.