Quote Originally Posted by MissMuffet View Post
I'm new to all of this so please be gentle!

My new boyfriend has just informed me he is a crossdresser. This has shocked me but I like to think I'm intelligent and open minded enough to accept this side of him. He has suggested I look at some crossdressing sites for support. I found this site rather quickly and have spent many nights reading through the posts here. I'm now more confused! I think this might be the wrong site for me? Are most of the crossdressers on here fulltime and wanting to be women? It seems this way from what I've read. But my boyfriend has insisted this is just an occasional fetish, entirely sexual and something he's been doing his whole life. He's also somewhat older than me and says there is no chance it will change to something more as he's reached his comfort level and is very content.

So is anyone else on here an occasional fetish dresser like my boyfriend? Or am I in the wrong place and this site is for those wanting to live as women? Sorry if I seem ignorant but I'll be honest and say that researching here has made me feel more confused and scared.

Please help.
Dear Miss M,

I really hope you stick around long enough to read this, because I identify totally with what your BF has told you.

I'm middle aged, I've been doing this since I was 8. It started after a couple of things happened then, I think it just "Imprinted" me.

I used to do it simply as a sexual thrill thing. I still do it sometimes just for the kick. Somewhere along the line, I realized I liked the comfort, and look, of panties. ( fairly plain ones, but have you compare regular mens stuff? Yuck! ) Also along the way, i realized I have a strong feminine streak, I don't think that had anything to do with being a CD, but it's helping to keep me from giving it up.

I've examined my motivations at length.

I'm not gay or Bi.

I have no intention, or ever had the feeling that I might want to transition.

I've never fully dressed, don't think I want to.


The fact that your BF has told you this indicates a high degree of trust he has in you, and that he thinks that you are important enough to him, that he wants to be totally honest with you. Consider that, and the fact that it took a lot of courage to tell you.