That's so cool that your so understanding and supportive. I am just as lucky as you spouse as my wife totally supports me. I also don't want anyone "at this time" to know. And I told her first thing that I joined this forum. I am 51 and I've only been married for 5 yrs. But for the first time in my life I am totally honest with no secrets. I can keep nothing, good or bad ,from her. Secrets suck. Bring up the subject and see how it goes. I'm sure it'll be ok
