Find a therapist you can talk too. The board is great for support but nothing beats a good therapist who can help you deal objectively with this.
Also don't get caught up in labels, male -female- trans, hetro- gay- lesbian. Develop your potential as a person, career, hobbies, spiritual, and intellectual, with a full life you will meet a person with who you click. Then one day you say hey we're not male -female- trans, hetro- gay- lesbian we are just us!!!!!
