Great. But go slow, very slow. Don't push it. Continue to be the person she met and cares for. Introduce Amy slowly but continue to be you. Respect her feelings and identify necessary boundaries. Involve her as much as you can. Express your appreciation. Make Amy a person she looks forward to being with (example - Amy might give her great massages). Congratulations.
Yay! result..
i agree with Heather, don't rush, don't push, but do involve her. Ask for her opinion and her advice on clothes, makeup, deportment etc.
Well done :-)
Softly, softly, catchee long term friend and supportive partner. ( yes, I know.. but who really wants a monkey? )
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Rachel
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Good for you Amy, that is a huge step in any relationship. I am glad that she was so accepting and thngs turned out so well for you so far.
The hard part now is to go slow and let her regulate the pace that she comes to terms with Amy and all the stuff that goes along with this.
Good Luck
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
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Congratulations!
Congratulations! I am glad it went so well Amy. I hope it all works out for you. Perhaps to early to tell. I also suggest what others have already said. While with her, talking to her, be the same guy she met and always thought you were. I would not bring the subject up and let her lead in any conversation about crossdressing. I disagree with the suggestion of involving her and asking her advice of suggestions. Way to soon for that. On the other hand, if she volunteers suggestions on clothes, hair and makeup, accept it. Just don't ask until you are assured of her acceptance and to what degree.
Thats GREAT,,, Like alot of the others said ,,,,,,,, SLOW,,,,,,,,,,, Let her lead the way,,,, An you will do fine ,,Thats the best way to go about it then you will already know her comfort level .
Yull Find Out !!! lol,,,,
congratulations on a good start. As others have said already, take your time, and don't overwhelm her with your needs. Try to keep focused on her.
That is great news, I remember building up to tell my wife about Emma. As everyone else has mentioned take it at her pace, and most of all enjoy. It can be so beutiful between the both of you now.
Emma
This is pretty much how I plan to proceed. I don't want to overwhelm her with talking about it all the time. I don't think I'll mention it again until she says something. Thank you all so much for all the advice and support. I don't know that I could have done this without all of you and your advice. THANK YOU!!!Originally Posted by BRANDYJ
"Oh my God, I realized, it's not that we're screwed up; it's just that we've been trained to thnk so."
~Rick Novic, Alice in Genderland
sounds promising. Congrats!
Don't let her confuse what she sees at a drag show with what a crossdresser does.
DonnaT
That is good news :D Now like the others have said take it slow with her and just be prepared for the down times because they may come, if/when they do just sit with her and answer her questions and her worries...most of all both of you have fun with it.
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Congratulations Amy! I had a recent similar experience with telling my SO - all went well and she is very accepting of it! I wish you the best of luck
Woo-hoo, way to go Amy!
Sooooo glad it it went well Amy, congratulations.
Samantha xx
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I'm glad it went well for you. Now, as the others have said, don't go rushing off in a pink fog! Treat her well and show that you appreciate her.
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it sounds awsome hope it all works out for you !!!
Congrats hun =) but great o know you have an accepting woman and i hope you'll both have many happy years together x
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Woooot! Congratulations!:D I told her tonight. I invited her over for dinner. I made a really great Maple glazed Salmon dinner. It was delcious. So after dinner we were talking and I told her that I had something that I wanted to tell her. I stumbled a bit, and wasn't sure how to even begin. I had rehearsed the conversation a million times in my head. You would think I would be able to just recite it like my own name.... not the case. So I told her that I really am turned on by woman's clothes. She didn't even skip a beat and said, you're a transvestite?! I said well I'm a cross dresser. Transvestite sounds more like some disease that no one wants to get.
She seemed to be very accepting. She said that she has had several friends who cross dressed, but never dated a CD. She knew that having a desire to CD wasn't a sign of being gay. She told me that. LOL. She also said "Wow, that actually makes a lot of sense now!" I have dropped her a couple of hints, I like to get waxed, I like getting Mani Pedi's.
I told her that very few people know about this, and she is the first girl friend to know about it. I explained that I want her to know because I can see the potential to be with her long term. I can't predict the future, and I don't know that we will be together long term, but the potential is there. I didn't want to wait until we were further into our relationship without her knowing. The last thing I wanted was to spring this on her three years later.
She did want to know if it was more of a comfort thing, or if I wanted to be a drag queen or something. I explained that there is certainly a comfort aspect to it, but there is definitely a sexual side as well.
She said that the sexual part was something that she would have to think about.I made the comment that if its not something she is comfortable with that is ok, we don't have to have sex while I'm dressed. She was more insitent than me that this should be something we should think about, but she wasn't sure. Other than the sex part, she seems to be very accepting. She even said that we need to go to a drag show! I think I may fall in love with this woman!
She said that she was flattered that I felt strong enough about our relationship to tell her that. Then she wanted to see pictures.
This went better (so far) than my wildest dreams could predict.
We ended the evening in bed. So...... I think it went VERY WELL!!!
Whew WHAT A RELIEF!!!! I'm so excited, and ramped up right now that I can't even begin to think about going to sleep.
I'm so happy right now. I feel like I should be celebrating!:drink: Amy made a new friend tonight.
:drink:
Do I ever know how you feel! Well, except for the in bed part, but I'm getting more confident we're headed in the right direction. The girl I'm seeing had a very similar reaction, very acepting, and that feeling of relief!!! Great isn't it?
Amy,
That's a heartwarming story. Congratulations on opening up and being lucky enough to find someone who took it so well! I'm well acquainted with the feeling you sure seem to be experiencing. It's a thrill that lasts an awful long time. Best of luck with everything else and let her set the pace.
All the best,
Bree
How awesome it truly is it just goes to show that love conquers all. Sounds like if you follow your heart and some advice given here you got yourself a keeper. How blessed it is, and how happy I am for you all the best for a long life together
Im glad it went well for you Amy
Last edited by Davena Doll; 08-10-2012 at 12:11 AM.
Im glad it went well for you Amy. Wigs off to you.
Last edited by Davena Doll; 08-10-2012 at 12:13 AM.
I am so pleased it is going well for you.
There is nothing I can add, it has all been said, slow, only answer the questions, don't talk about it unless asked...And so it goes on.
All the best for a future together
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Congratulations on nurturing your relationship in the right way. Because she was somewhat accepting and suggested going out to a drag show, my first thought was that it would give her an opportunity to ask you questions about the presentations of the performers. I think that the performers are a little over the top and by asking you to see pictures of yourself, she may be comparing what she thinks a drag queen is like to what you are as a cd. I would not have any more pre-thought out plans about Amy and what you are going to share with her but rather let her take the lead about your future together. You might, however, invite her over one evening and prepare another home cooked meal as Amy to let her get to know the total you. Good luck!
Awesome....what a relief!!!! Congrats!!! wish you the best from the bottom of my heart. Cheers!!!!
Lov'n it!!!!
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