Leslie, in your last two posts you have mentioned several things that you are doing to help ease the situation. Has your wife said anything about taking a step toward you. For you to continue to feel good about taking some steps toward her, you also need to know she is commited to taking steps toward you. That doesn't mean she ever has to see the cd'ing or participate, but to eventually come to a point of being OK, just knowing you are a cd, even without involvement. Like Reine said, she has to come to a place where she no longer punishes you mentally or emotionally. That is going to require a willingness to talk and compromise on both parts, probably with a professional third person. That is what is going to be required for you two to come to an understanding and live in peace.
