I wish I could be oblivious to the subject at hand, but no, I have ONE as well!!! A friend, and a good man, my business buddy with whom I have spent long hours discussing from bottom lines to our dismay with our wifes, lol.
Now, every time I visit his office, we have a great time talking however, I am still HE in his verbal expression. I correct him every time and we laugh, so it isn't really bothersome, or at least it seems that way, but YES, it is bothersome to me, as he has no reason to address me as HE other then inability to let go the memory of a long gone pall.
And so I have withheld from my visits simply because I just don't want to hear him address me that way, in the sense it is kind of weird that he would still do such while looking at a naturally looking female?!?!?!?!
What is more interesting, is the question as to what mechanism is responsible for this behavior, as it doesn't feel intentional, yet when I showed up for the first time in 2 years in his office he approached me and said: "may I help you maam" I smiled, and said "Hi Alex, do you remember me?" he was simply oblivious to who I was and I kept him guessing for a while, I was simply amused by the process. Him being a ladies man, I got him to the point that when I told him that I have a very serious message, he froze stiff in his chair, and I could tell he was afraid that he might be a father, lol.
Anyway, after my reveal, he started to call me HE, so it certainly is a puzzle of a mechanism at work. Is it his denial of what happened with me?????