Quote Originally Posted by LelaK View Post
But my main homely feature is my face and I despair of ever being able to beautify it. It's too long and rather gaunt. Improving my diet may reduce the gauntness, but not the longness. Actually, I don't think I even look good as male. I'm embarrassed to be seen in public even dressed as a guy, just because of my face.
If this begins to impact your life negatively, if you begin to not go out because of the embarrassment or if you begin to focus on how your face looks and continue to be embarrassed about it, this could become problematic. You might want to read about Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and perhaps talk to a professional about this, if only to rule it out:

http://consults.blogs.nytimes.com/20...is-your-enemy/

I don't know if this will help, but I've actually thought about what my eyes see when I interact with people. If they are strangers, I can't help but notice their physical appearance since I don't really have any other points of reference to classify them with. But, as I get to know someone and once I know them really well, it is not their physical appearance I see, but who they are as a person. If this makes sense. This is why inwardly beautiful people who are low on the attractiveness scale by the media standards are loved by their friends and families, and narcissistic/cruel/selfish people who score Tens on the attractiveness scale don't have many friends once people get to know them.