Hmm. Long post indeed. As you said Frédérique, there are GG's who come on this site who are supportive even if they don't have a Cd partner. In the case of women who can't accept their partner dressing (and my own SO is one of them) I'm sure there are many reasons. I have had clashes with GG friends in the past on a number of issues and what it often boils down to is an invasion of territory. Most GG's have experienced some wounding by men in their lives and many feel that men trying to look like or be women are trying to take away their identity and make it a male thing. They don't want to share when they feel that men have already taken a lot from them. Many of them already feel that it is male expectations that make women need to look like anorexic models or wear revealing clothes in order to be acceptable. It might be facile to state but most of the time when any of us lash out it comes from our own hurt.
It still doesn't make it any easier for those of us who want to embrace our feminine element, to be soft and caring and supportive, emotional and empathising but maybe putting it all in perspective helps a little bit, or not xxx
