Ask a Transexual

[Megan70]

ASK A TRANNY QUESTION # 341

This question is serious absolutely non critical one for the moderator Nigela, as well as BadTranny, Kaitlyn and others who are or truly consider themselves Transsexual... either pre-op, post op, transgendered and living (and have been) as a woman. 'Here it is, with some clarification.:
FAMILY, FRIENDS,RELATIVES. How do you tell them , when they learn about you for the first time, see you the first time at the likes of Weddings, wakes, Christmas and Easter Dinners, Family reunions(from really disconnected far away unknowing relatives)Family Birthday Parties where there are small children involved but you must attend i.e.sibling, nephew, cousin.... all of these when you show up as a woman , your sincere chosen gender, and not try to dress androgously, but have the breasts, hair makeup, voice, deportment. There must be SOME sort of problems , some may be shocked, speechless, those who only heard tha family gossip but no to see the person ...Those some of the time, either shunning, mocking, maybe hostility , disowning by some. Now I know the standard universal answer is, I am me, I am doing what I feel I need to do for myself and my gender and I don't care, but the reality of it is... others DO whether you like it or not, and you have that hard choice of either biting the bullet and showing up that very first time to break the ice at any of the events mentioned above or write off your family friends,relatives who have disowned you or turned their back on you or friends who abandoned you. For some it must be a very lonely life and a heart wreatching decision to make.
But again what do you do when those social event occur? Do you show up as YOU?
This again is a respective question and I'm very curious to its answer.
Megan