Am I TS? Tough love or compassion?

[ReineD]

Reine: I like that video, spot on.

@3:02 - Replace "pain" with "trans + the suffix of your choice":

It makes no sense to speak of knowing something in a context where we cannot possibly doubt it. Therefore to say, "I know I am in pain" is entirely senseless. When you want to know the meaning of a word, don't look inside yourself, look at the uses of the word in our way of life. Look at how we behave.

Therefore all the argument about who is TS and who is not is rather meaningless. A transwoman is a transwoman by virtue of what she does (lives all aspects of her life as a woman) and not by what she says or intends. One's intentions can last a lifetime without culminating in any action.

It does not matter to me whether someone's motive to transition is rooted in severe GID or a euphoric desire to live an idealized or sexual life as a woman. Once the decision is made, the body altered, the name changed, the life altered, the transwoman is living her life as a woman. If she has made a mistake, she will soon know it and no one but herself will suffer the consequences. No therapist or counselor, and certainly none of us here can peer so deeply into someone's mind and heart to determine what will make this person happy in the long run.

We are complex creatures.

So why all this arguing? The only real danger is perhaps encouraging someone to transition who may not be TS.