I can’t stop worrying about other members sometimes.

**suzy1** · 03-19-2013, 05:03 PM

I made friends with another member but worried about her because she was going very fast from joining the forum to major changes in her life.
We talked all the time through PMs. I would get a PM every day from her. I tried to slow her down because she seemed to be in the dreaded pink fog.

But her posts and the PMs have stopped now. Nothing for weeks.

So I worry again. I say again because this has happened to me before.
She has probably just lost interest in the forum but I start to think the worst.

We are real people here and I get involved sometimes with other members problems.

Silly but I can’t help it.

**Marlena-4now** · 03-19-2013, 05:45 PM

Suzy, That's just the price you pay for being the compassionate , empathetic and feminine person that you are.
P.S. Don't change !

**Tracii G** · 03-19-2013, 05:51 PM

Some just go too fast and not much you can do about it.

**andrea lace** · 03-19-2013, 05:56 PM

One of the downsides to being in touch with our feminine side is the compassion we feel for others
If we were just normal guys I doubt we would give a second thought to someone we were talking to on the internet. But that is what makes us so unique. Yes we are men but we are caring men and the world could use some of what we have.

**ArleneRaquel** · 03-19-2013, 05:59 PM

andrea,
Very well said hon. HUGZ !

**Rogina B** · 03-19-2013, 06:18 PM

I have tried to slow down a person or two on here with poor results.And if they have a need to make friends,it seems that they get caught up in it that much easier..

**Julogden** · 03-19-2013, 06:25 PM

Over the years, I've seen some go fast and ended up just fine, so it isn't always a bad thing, all depends on the individual, their needs and what else is going on in their life. We need to keep in mind that we shouldn't try to tell others to live their lives the same as we live ours.

Different strokes for different folks.

Carol

**ArleneRaquel** · 03-19-2013, 06:27 PM

Carol,
Very true darlin, very true.

**Nikki A.** · 03-19-2013, 06:31 PM

It seems that some of us repress this side for so long, that when we take that first step the floodgates are released. All you can do sometimes is offer advise and hope that they listen through that dreaded pink fog.

**MichelleR276** · 03-19-2013, 06:37 PM

Suzy - It's caring and compassionate people like you that make this forum a safe and welcoming place for us girls to share our feelings and seek advice.

-Michelle

**Jodi** · 03-19-2013, 06:39 PM

One of the drawbacks of having relationships over the internet is that a person can drop from sight, and you might never know what happened to them. This has happened with our real life cd support group. Girls will disappear. Because of wanting to remain anonomous, we have no way of tracing someone who disappears.

Just a fact of life in this cyber world.

Jodi

**flatlander_48** · 03-19-2013, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by suzy1

Silly but I can’t help it.

No, definitely not silly. It's good to know that someone is thinking about others because it is so easy to develop a serious case of tunnelvision. I'm sure that the people you have communicated with didn't have a sense of what was really happening until you prodded a bit.

**stephNE** · 03-19-2013, 07:05 PM

I have only been coming to this forum for about six months, and I too have met a couple gurls who have joined after me and apparently left already. Sometimes I wonder what happened too them. I hope its all good.

**Amanda M** · 03-20-2013, 04:17 AM

Suzy, why am I not surprised? It's just you - thank goodness.

**Kate Simmons** · 03-20-2013, 07:47 AM

That's how it is with good friends Suzy. Just know that I consider you one of mine Hon.

**traci_k** · 03-20-2013, 08:15 AM

We should never stop caring. Often times there are some very hurting people here. Though much of it seems like good times, there are quite a few girls struggling to understand and they need to know they are not alone, that's why this can be a safe haven.
Carry on Suzy!
Hugs,

**Laura912** · 03-20-2013, 08:31 AM

That happened in my professional field as well. One invests a great deal of ones self in the other person and when they disappear you feel that you may have failed them in some way. You didn't of course, and they might have been worse off if you had not tried. Chin up old girl!

**Marleena** · 03-20-2013, 09:12 AM

Suzy it just shows you care.

We are living in a "me" world. It's a good quality I wish more people had. Nothing silly about it at all.

**Ellanore G.G.** · 03-20-2013, 09:19 AM

Ive done that too.
I like talking to people, and when they vanish off the forum
it can be a worry. I suppose you just have to hope they are ok, and that they will contact you if they need to talk.

**stacycoral** · 03-20-2013, 09:23 AM

Originally Posted by Kate Simmons

That's how it is with good friends Suzy. Just know that I consider you one of mine Hon.

Originally Posted by MichelleR276

Suzy - It's caring and compassionate people like you that make this forum a safe and welcoming place for us girls to share our feelings and seek advice.

-Michelle

Originally Posted by andrea lace

One of the downsides to being in touch with our feminine side is the compassion we feel for others
If we were just normal guys I doubt we would give a second thought to someone we were talking to on the internet. But that is what makes us so unique. Yes we are men but we are caring men and the world could use some of what we have.

Originally Posted by Marlena-4now

Suzy, That's just the price you pay for being the compassionate , empathetic and feminine person that you are.
P.S. Don't change !

Originally Posted by Marleena

Suzy it just shows you care.

We are living in a "me" world. It's a good quality I wish more people had. Nothing silly about it at all.

Wow Suzy, i don't think i could say anything better than these ladies have said and it worth reading agin what they had to say to you hugs girlfriend.

**MysticLady** · 03-20-2013, 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by andrea lace

One of the downsides to being in touch with our feminine side is the compassion we feel for others
If we were just normal guys I doubt we would give a second thought to someone we were talking to on the internet. But that is what makes us so unique. Yes we are men but we are caring men and the world could use some of what we have.

Andrea I so agree with you.
Suzy, Since we're a family I believe thats why you feel the way you do

**Karren H** · 03-20-2013, 09:28 AM

I've had friends here and on other forums drop off the face of the earth and then I bump into them on Facebook and they are fine..... to date I've only had one friend drop from site because she was in a bad accident.... most of the others just lost interest or more commonly got pissed off at someone or something and just left..... so in my mind I no longer worry about them.... they are all fine and having a great life somewhere.... out there... we just aren't a part of it......

**Beverley Sims** · 03-20-2013, 12:23 PM

I hope for your sake it is only a temporary absence.
Different situations arise within a family and the dynamics do change.
Friends that I have do touch base with each other enough to know that we are still there.

**Julogden** · 03-22-2013, 03:53 PM

There's a member that I've always looked forward to seeing here, her posts were always helpful and upbeat, but she disappeared all of a sudden, and her Flickr account went silent at the same time. No response to emails either. That's when I really worry.

Carol

**famousunknown** · 03-22-2013, 03:58 PM

Originally Posted by suzy1

We are real people here and I get involved sometimes with other members problems.

You really have no idea if you're dealing with a real person or not. Anyone can be anyone on the internet.

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