Crossdressing tends to be hidden under a veil of secrecy. The young CDer hides everything for fear of being discovered. This continues along with a sense of shame because society is so closed minded about crossdressing. As you grow you learn to hide your secret. The CDer believes that no one could love him because of this secret he has hidden away for so long. This continues until he feels the need to risk everything and share his secret with the one he loves.
It will take time because he has hidden this for so long. And in truth, I am sure he never imagined that you would be so accepting. Give him time and understanding.
