Welcome to the forum mermaidI can understand your SO almost jumping out of his/her skin as she probably feels guilt to the dressing as society has made us this way. There really is no harm in being a CD. The key I think for both of you is communication about it. You seem to embrace it more than your SO does , which is every dressers dream, but take it slow. Let your SO adjust to this as You will need some time to adjust to it also. When the communication is a bit more open about it all, then ask your questions and listen to what your SO has to say with an open mind and not jumping to conclusions. It will all work out in the end and will bring you two that much closer
Do you share everything with your SO?
At this point, yes. When I was dressing secretly, no. The only thing I was secret about was the dressing though because, like most CD's growing up, you kind of hope it will go away in time or if in a serious relationship. Truth is it doesn't and by time you realize it, or accept it, You really are a bit deep and don't know how to bring it to the table or what the reaction will be. Your reaction to catching your SO dressed seemed far from a negative one so in time he will bring it to the table for discussion.
Is it easier to out it all at once or build up slowly?
For some it's easier going all in. That's what I did. I had a sit down serious talk with my SO and put it all out there. was it easy? not by any means but the burden of the secret was lifted off my shoulders and I am a better person for it. From the sounds of your SO's reaction, and conversation, your SO isn't ready for it all to be out yet. Give it sometime and I am sure once your SO becomes comfortable with it, it will all be out. It does seem a bit strange though that your SO wants you to help get things but doesn't want to go into details, it might just be nervousness though so don't panicor he may be testing you to see if your sincere.
Do you dress in their presence?
Yes, I do but not often. When she sees me I am fully dressed, she has never seen me getting dressed or in a half state of dress. I do, however, tend to limit how much she sees me dressed. I am a crossdresser, I do not, could not, would not want to be a full time woman. If I were to be dressed all the time in front of her it may send the wrong message.
Any other advise for my situation?
Do a lot of reading, the best place to start is right here. Keep in mind that every dressers needs and wants are different. Do not let the thought that you are not enough for him to creep into your mind because he won't discuss this with you in detail yet. As long as you are open and honest about your accepting this and really want to be supportive of this, all will fall into place in time .
Again, welcome to the forum
