We all have our own feelings about this and for some it is "just a hobby", while for others it is a lifestyle. There is no "one size fits all" here, this is a sliding scale and each of us determines our position on that scale. Many just enjoy wearing a particular article of clothing while others need to dress fully and express their feminine side to the fullest and venture into the world interacting as a woman.
Perhaps it is "just a hobby" for your hubby. What you need to do is TALK, TALK, TALK. Don't be afraid to ask questions and also don't be afraid to let him be honest in his answers without reproach. Together you can see this through and find a common ground you both are comfortable with. You've taken the first steps by not freaking out and seeking out answers. Support is very important to us, as is the love of our spouse.
