Originally Posted by
Kelly DeWinter
Anne, you have answered this question.
"Where is all of this leading to?"
That is one hell of a question.
when you said
"What I have not told her, however, is that I do plan on transitioning to a woman."
...
I refer you to Anne's very next paragraph:
"But this is for a very good reason. Well, perhaps it's not a good reason, but it is a reason, nonetheless. That being, I have yet to tell or admit to myself that I am going to transition. Quite frankly, I don't know what I am going to do. Or perhaps more accurately, I am not sure if I am ready to accept and admit what I am going to do yet."
Once again, one cannot tell what one does not know. Moreover, trying to communicate the nuances of what might or might not be is fraught with difficulties. The former can trigger marital issues before their time, and perhaps for no good reason, should transition not happen. The latter can give false assurances.
The process is painful for all concerned, but it IS a process, not a situation where pat answers can be given at any time.
It may be obvious to some people that Anne will transition. Until ANNE knows she will transition, it would be imprudent to say so to her wife.