First I want to apologize, I am not an English major. Wish I was so I could be making more money then I do currently but that's just not the case. Also it would have came in handy to actually word this post correctly and not cause all of this confusion, labels, definitions, and the like as I wasn't trying to define anyone person or their life or even to begin to compare myself to anyone else. We all walk our own paths in this life and though they are similar in a lot of ways, they also branch onto new paths depending on the sister and her needs.

We all know that there really is no one right answer to who or what we are. We don't know why we do it, or the impulses that drive us to continue to do so. We just do. All of the research into this, as far as I can tell, is nothing more than a bunch of guess work. I am probably wrong here also but my intent is not to really dive that deep into it. I have accepted who I am and I know how far this train goes for me.

I have read all of the responses in the thread and my ever growing PM's and I can clearly say, not one person here is right, nor is one person here wrong. I agree and disagree with a little of each post.

Had I been even more careful of my words, cut it to the barest form of the question, left "true" and "hetro" out, which I put "true" in brackets to indicate that I was unsure of the use of the word here....I probably would have came up with the question that Jenniferathome came to after reading my post: "I think you are really asking, "Are there boring ole cross dressers like me?" which is almost exactly what i was asking. Like I said if I was an english major......

I know you do not have to be straight, gay, Bi or any of those other labels to be a CD. This wasn't even my intent to bring it in but when I used "hetro" I guess that word was misused for the intent of the question and I threw it in right before I hit post.

why? I don't know, I guess I have always believed wrongly that a "cross dresser" was just that. A simple plain ole boring hetro cross dresser such as myself. We wear the clothes part time, we relax in them, we clean in them, we like to try to pass as a woman best we can, we like to go out dressed, we like to stay in dressed and so forth and so on without once thinking we want to be with men sexually, we want to have our breast be as real as possible, we want live 24/7 as a woman or any of the other things that plague a TG/TS as they truly believe with all of their being that they were born wrong and are taking the means to be who they feel deep down they are.

I guess the question could have been: When do you stop being simply a CD and become a TS/TG?. Because when you begin your transitioning, when you have the surgery and such, your wearing YOUR clothes at that point and not the clothes of the opposite gender.

I hope this clears up a little of what I was truly trying to get at. Again I apologize for making a simple question complicated but at the time I really believed that I wrote it not to offend anyone or getting into the whole labeling thing other than to make the distinction between when you stop being a CD and become TS/TG.

Now I pray any of this makes sense as i don't want to pour gasoline on a fire lol