I know it's the mindset and all but if you can raise the flagpole for men while enfemme then what is the block causing everyone to find them unattractive in male mode?
In my case it was simply that I wasn't allowing myself to truly explore, maybe if some actually give your attractions a closer look things would open up a bit more?
Think about what you're attracted to in him while enfemme, look for the same type of men while in male mode and do an HONEST comparison on how you feel.
Don't use porn though, naked dudes are your call though.
