My Dad used to tell me that there were three sides to every story: your, theirs, and somewhere between, the truth.
Not knowing your life, or hers, I wouldn't presume to tell you what you should do. But, I can tell you what I would do in your place: stay out! If the situation and the break-up were that bad, do you really see it getting any better, especially since she is already issuing directives?
