I have a new boyfriend who has been cross-dressing for 45 years. He's lived his life in the transgender world all that time. Yet today he said to me after shaving my face, "wow, it's like kissing a real woman." I got so upset. I replied, "real woman, so what am I a fake woman? Have I been faking it for 15 months (the time I've been living 24/7). He said, "yeah." I got so mad I walked out of the house and have been steaming ever since.
As I was leaving I told him, "I am a real woman. Just because I don't have a vagina, doesn't mean I'm not a real woman. I shouldn't have to educate you. Of all people, you are someone I thought understood."
I heard him yell at me, "you don't have to educate me."
Now I ask you. Am I a real woman??? The theory says that we transsexuals are people who were born with genitals of the opposite sex that we feel and believe ourselves to be on the inside. I'm in transition preparing for surgery, living my life full-time as a woman. I take hormones, put make-up on every day, style my hair, etc..., all the things a woman does to present herself to the world. My skin is soft, I've developed breasts, my legs are smooth as a baby's bottom, I'm developing hips and a butt that's shaping my body more and more with each day that passes. The one thing that's missing is a vagina. So does that mean I'm NOT a real woman?
I felt so insulted and hurt. It's one thing when that kiind of ignorance comes from strangers who don't have a clue about this. It really sucks when it comes from a boyfriend, whom I love so much, and whom is a cross-dresser himself! He has even stated to me that he loves being a female, feels he looks better as a woman, and believes he too was born in the wrong body; but wants to keep his penis. With all that going on with him, and the fact that he attends my support group weekly, where they provide education and information about this whole transgender thing, it blew my mind away that he said something like that to me. It was so insensitive and hurt so bad. I'm almost in tears over it.
So am I a real woman? Are we (transsexuals)??
P.S. I hate being trans!!!!! It sucks so bad being a "chic with a dick!" I'm so sick of it all! It's bad enough I have family members reject me, friends reject me, 90% of society doesn't understand, and now someone who claims to love me doesn't understand either!!! Damn it. This sucks!