So many things not working on both sides that I can't imagine the two therapists can be of any further value. Only suggestion I would offer is for you to make a list of the things you believe you need to once again lead a "happy" or contented life. Love and respect are two that should be mutually included IMO. After you have worked out that list --- take a few days to do it --- then arrange for the most serious TALK
that you will ever have for the outcome --- if understanding is not found for both --- should decide your future decisions --- can't keep going the way you are now.
Julie