So true. I know that forever and ever there will be huge "tells" about me. Things that all the medicine and surgery in the world cannot change. I know this, but I have to go places, I cannot switch at will and this would have been a perfect opportunity to do that. The group is one that is very strongly anchored in "old" customs. Unfortunately for me one of those is the religious feelings on gay and TG people. I know why I was asked not to present as "me". I know. I would have just rather have been told to stay away. I was very uncomfortable there.Originally Posted by LeaP
Yes, absolutely.My friends I can understand that. And to be fair, the rest of the people there were not given the opportunity to make their own decisions (something I say about CDs here...let the SO make their own decision), so maybe in the grand scheme the majority would have said "hey we support TGs"?not confident enough yet, maybe not polished enough that they still see the old you.
Thank you for that but I am comfortable in most situations. I am probably too comfortable, expecting that I will be treated like any other person.So, my suggestion is...move out of your default comfort zone....
Not sure what that means. My daily make up is very conservative. The pictures you see are glamgo get a makeover, ...go get a female to career female makeover.... They have seen the new me, for the last 8 months. Several complain that they don't see the old me anymore and I should come back. It is hard trying to keep old friends and move to a new life. I imagine it is that way with any change...looks, job..romance. I have several male friends who insist on calling me "he" or "my man". I have grown used to that but I don't like it. They do still think that what I am doing is a game, a lark, something that will pass.Then your friends will see the new you instead of what they have seen for years and they will believe you are serious.
