Cus he has nothing better to do...Originally Posted by arbon
We have tones of men who dress as women here for halloween, no one cares, no one is talking about it, people are having parties and having a good laugh... you need to stop ruining it for people and those agreeing with you, stop being sheep... baaaaaaa........
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Missing my Libra babe Sherlyn, I hope she's rocking up there with the angels
Missing our Rianna, doesn't seem right, gone to early, hope she's partying with Sherlyn
Indeed, in my earlier post about it depending where in the world it is done, I had in mind England, and even more specifically, the once famous professor and novelist Kingsley Amis, crashing an Oxbridge faculty party with a friend, both cross-dressed. He annoyed the up-tight, had a lot to drink, and enjoyed it as an outrageous prank. Maybe he was trying to get even for his disappointment that his fellow professors were not serious enough about English literature to engage in enough well-thought out conversation on academic subjects. Or maybe the man who called Jane Austen's genre as amounting to the "pornography of money" was just a rebel.
I've always found that dressing for Halloween so effectively that you pass as a female to all but those who know you well is a hoot. That said, I've been out for years, so when people comment on my look, that it's a little "too good", I nod and smile and explain that I had to try to tone it down from what I was wearing Tuesday.
Of course it can arouse suspicions if you do it too well, or"just happen" to have a full outfit of women's clothes when you are a man, so you can cross-dress really well as a woman. I got asked at a costume party before I transitioned, where I got the clothes. I sort of fibbed a little and said, "from here and there." But i could point to the fact that some items were men's clothing, that just could look like women's. The theme was a beach holiday in the south, and the few other guys who dressed contented themselves with a men's Hawaian shirt and sunglasses, or something like that, though the women who dressed, got into more elaborate costumes, (but not cross-dressing).
. . It was the first time I had dressed really in public I think, at least in front of people I knew, and my nerves ran riot the whole week before, and I was going to call it off, but eventually went anyway. I huddled in the car outside for a few minutes before going in, watching others arrive first, and when I did go in, I was wearing plain beige women's slacks, which, when I saw nobody seemed hostile, I took off in the bathroom and revealed a shortish white skort. During the party I was really amazed at how I sat with some male acquaintances, dressed like that and straightening out my skirt once in a while, and talking completely normally with them about such things as cable tv, etc., and nobody in that church choir seemed to think anything was amiss! The minister who had poor eyesight, seeing me across the room, did not recognize me, asking who the woman was. It was a hoot!
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I think the UK is more progressive than your more puritanical cousins, the US. You certainly have much better insurance support for transition than we do (and I'm guessing your anti gender discrimination laws are better too), and I'm wondering if this makes a difference in how people in the UK generally see TSs, which then extends to CDs.
Also, the guys you speak of who get a good laugh at the Halloween parties ... are they dressing for real like the CDers here would be, or are they doing it on a lark with big inflated boobs, platinum wigs with beard showing, etc? Men in the US do this too and they also get laughs if it is obvious to others that they are making a parody of CDers.
Reine
Sometimes I worry about u, Reine. Do u 2 ever really let go? Just blow it all out and really have fun?
I must disagree with u on this point. When vanilla men dress up as women it's to parody WOMEN. They aren't even thinking about CD's!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Sherry, I stand to be corrected. I almost did edit my post to add "women" to that sentence. :p
As to blowing it off, isn't this a discussion forum where we are free to offer our opinions? On the other hand, all my life the people who know me have always thought me rather intense. I guess I'm just wired that way. But I do have fun at parties though!
Reine
