Reine, I'm not about to date anyone other than my fiancee, whether it be male, female, CD, TS, or whatever, but I may have some insight here.
I tend to treat people as what they present as, which is a carryover from my experience in Second Life (where all you see of a person is their avatar, which may be customized to the limit of their imagination, creativity, and available budget). Thus, for instance, in my meetup groups, where some of the people there may be just CDs and some may be TS, I see all of us there as women, because that's what we're presenting as. Similarly, everyone on this site that presents as female, I see as being a woman. (I've seen very few FtMs on here, but more over on Facebook. I view them all as men.) The fact that the person I'm looking at and talking to may actually have male chromosomes and organs that I can't see is not relevant; she's being a woman, so that's what she is, and (presuming I'm being Amy at the time) I will try to relate to her as one woman would relate to another. I would hope that she, in turn, would extend the same courtesy to me.
Maybe that's just my viewpoint, but it might explain what you're seeing.
- Amy
