Quote Originally Posted by JessM. View Post
Me, I call them whatever they want to be called at the moment. If a person is presenting as a woman and gives a female name, then I presume that female pronouns are appropriate for the moment (unless I've been told otherwise). And if someone else leaned over and asked me "is that person a woman?" I would say yes and change the subject. Would you say: "No, that's a man dressed as a woman"?
Yes, I would say that. Because that would truthfully answer the question being asked. It may be more pertinent to say to reply by saying "that's a man who identifies and presents himself as a woman", but that doesn't mean that he is a woman.

It's all well and good using female pronouns - that just adds to how many cd's want to be addressed. As Lorileah stated - using a feminine pronoun on this forum for example is regarded as the correct one to use. Because it's a forum in which we are all presenting ourselves, and discussing issues that revolve around, femininity.

As for Reine's question in her original post, as a gay man I am not attracted to cd's. But I understand why a man who identifies himself as heterosexual would find attraction to cd's, because cd's present themselves as female, and straight men are attracted to females. If anything, for a cd who straight men find attractive, it becomes a, for want of a better word, validation as to how successfully they present as women. An acid test so to speak. As for those who are attracted to cd's, it's probably the case that this will be something that they rarely, if ever, act upon. Or in other words, it's something that stays well within the realm of fantasy - just something that they wonder what it would be like. That, in my opinion, doesn't make such a person gay, or bisexual. And it's something that some cd's may wonder about because they would be entering into an encounter (or relationship) with someone who their share a common interest with.

Of course, when it boils down to it in reality, then when the time comes, the clothes come off anyway, so at such a time the illusion of visual femininity that cd's give off is removed, and a male body is what will stand before them. Would that still be attractive such cd's? If so, then the fantasy which is now a reality does suggest that they are at least bisexual. If such a time (when it remains a fantasy) doesn't enter their own thought process, well, that's why it will only ever remain a fantasy for them.