I learnt pretty quickly that's not as easy for everyone else to grasp as it is for me, and it took me years to get a hold of myself and really begin to understand myself. I think the crossdressing/transgender community in general can be pretty insecure and defensive and it sometimes causes us to unintentionally seclude ourselves from the cisgender world. A lot of the time we have good reason to be defensive, but if we're not rational about it then we risk giving power to those who are actively against us
