Glad you don't look like the stick in the dress, it's way better on you
Glad you don't look like the stick in the dress, it's way better on you
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Originally Posted by JessM.
Lol that described my thoughts perfectly. Strange sweater. Great dress, overall good looking girl ^_^
Most of us will never look as good as most gg's. But we will continue dressing to look as good as ee can. By the way - the dress looks fine on you.
I have the same problem, too. Do all my shopping on line. See something and think, "Oooh, that's hot! I will so rock that look." Never even come close. The important point is that I FEEL pretty and that works for me.
Also, the dress looks good on you, Jenn. I'm guessing you're wearing the cardi to hide what my wife calls "the man arms and shoulders?"
I think you look amazing in that dress! Personally, I find all shapes and sizes attractive. I really enjoy plus size models and fashions as well -- which might make a difference in the types of images/ideals we are attracted to.
Yes, MissTee, my arms/shoulders are quite the give away.
Thought so. Same here {groan.} I power lifted for years. That coupled with the genetics for bulking up and it served me well in guy mode. Not too attractive in a sleeveless evening gown, though. Cardi's are my friend
It's not ridiculous, but I hear you. And I venture to guess the reason that so many CDers' wardrobes are so large is this continuous search for the perfectly transformative dress ... which doesn't exist.
And it doesn't exist for GGs either. :p But I think we may be better at knowing that no matter how good it looks on the model, it won't look the same on the average woman who has different measurements, especially if she doesn't have the youth, the hair, and the face to match.
I would love nothing more than to see clothing catalogs feature real women's bodies to model the clothes. Short women, square women, gray-haired women, flat women, angular women, all different sizes of boobs, necks, arms, legs, hands, and feet women ... PLUS put a ban on photoshopping and air-brushing the photographs.
... but then, would their sales go down? :D
PS. Don't be so hard on yourself Jenn, you look great!
Reine
You actually look pretty good in that dress! IMO, you have much better looking legs than the model.
want to bet the model didn't look like the photo either? Bet she has been stretched, and nipped and twisted, blurred and softened. For all you know she was a blonde who had no hips at all.
You look good in that dress, that's all that counts. A few weeks ago I was complaining about being fat and a woman told me "Don't complain you have the body a lot of women would die for" Half of it was off the rack
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Many years ago (early 1960s) I was with my girlfriend and another girl (both in their twenties) while they were shopping. The other girl spotted a dress in a shop window and went in to try it on. My girlfriend went in with her. When they emerged, with the dress in a bag, my girlfriend told me her friend looked good in the dress. The other girl said, yes, she liked the dress, but that she needed to wear a better girdle to look like the model in the shop window.
It just shows that women experience the same slight disappointment when their perfectly good figures don't quite match the "ideal" shown in magazines and on shop dummies. Back then, a sturdy girdle was seen as the obvious solution. Today it might be diet and exercise...or just a different attitude. To judge by sales figures, replace "girdle" with "shaper" and perhaps little has changed.
Jenn
I agree with what most of the ladies have said:
You're reaction to not looking like the model in the dress is very close to the typical GGs reaction
I think you look cute in the dress and love how you accessorized it with thw sweater
Jen put that dress on a girl with a decent athletic build (my favourite type of GG) and then do your comparison. You look terrific - trim, athletic and good femme shape.
Now the cardi ... haven't seen you without one (I suspect deliberately ... still remember your reference to the East German swimmer look) but I reckon you would look better without the cardi. It ruins the dress. Try it and ask for opinions. There is nothing so enjoyable as being out and about wearing sleeveless tops or preferably strappy camis ... the gentle breeze and warmth of the sun. Of course you might have to wait a few months until we've finished with the sun.
So does clothing exist that makes us instantly feminine. Hell yes, and you're wearing it ... just a different type of feminine. What about passing then? In my case, hell no ... but I sure enjoy practicing and wearing what pleases me.
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I think it's important to buy the right clothes for your body shape. If you get it wrong the results can be disastrous. We had a programme in the UK called 'What not to wear' and how Trinny and Suzanna could transform normal women just by changing the style of clothes was amazing. You can reduce the size of your shoulders or create a waist with the right clothes. I started a thread http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...our-body-shape which had a link to the Marks and Spencers website in the UK where you can put in your height, weight, body shape etc and it will produce recommendations. You might not like them all but it doe give you a pointer and could save you fortune in bad purchases.
Katie
Hi Jenn - I endorse the points everyone else has made (esp about the GG moment!) so I won't rehash them. A couple of further thoughts: the model's photo is superbly lit, which improves any photo massively (light appears to come closer, dark appears to recede, as we've all learned). The model is in reality about 15 years old, which has lots of pluses and oh-so-many minuses (unfortunately, in twenty years she, too, will be feeling the pangs of "If only I looked like that," which all women sadly are led to feel). A major part of her "shape" is illusion and posture - she has her hip stuck out far to one side; like most of us do, you are posed with one knee slightly bent but it's bent forward, you're stance is pretty much erect and the photo is taken pretty much straight-on - the least-flattering angle and pose of all. I'd also mention that we CDs really need to think more about women a decade or so closer to our own ages - every woman who has been through a pregnancy discovers that her ingenue shape has disappeared when she wasn't looking - and nobody is ever thrilled st the realization!
Finally, the news this week reports that the FDA is planning to ban "Trans Fat" - I thought at first they were specifically referring to me!
You look great, and your smile makes it all work for you! Hugs - Diane
Your thread makes me scratch my head, Jenn! Some folks comment about my "fem figure". However, I probably have one of least fem figures here!
The only difference between me and the average forms wearing cross dresser is that I cheat more. Why every CD, (not TS), doesn't wear corsets/girdles and hip/butt pads has always confounded me. Yes, they're a bit of a hassle. But, much less the more u wear them.
My motto is: "If u don't like your figure, CHANGE IT!"
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U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I brought a skirt/blouse set online without asking my wife about it. Fit was great but it just wasn't Tina. Moral of the story: if I can't try it on, I sure get my wife's input. Sometimes it's just necessary to get a second opinion.
That said, why was it you don't like this dress?
