Here is a sympathetic hug. I am sure your efforts at damage control will work out OK. You can do this.
Here is a sympathetic hug. I am sure your efforts at damage control will work out OK. You can do this.
Your best shot may be to say something like Christmas? I thought it was Halloween, and play it off as a joke. Good luck, Hon.
Like Caitlyn, I hope your FB friends enjoy the Halloween costume u tried on at home but decided it was over the top!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
OMG, I'm close to your age. I hope my senior moments don't slip up as bad as this! lol And trust me i have had a few! :P
Yes, I think because of loneliness and isolation, there is a part of me, that really wants to be caught, and outed, subconsciously. Thankfully, i have told several people in the church, and they accept me, but say i need to quit cding sometime. My life would be far simpler without it, it would be far easier to have a GF, i would spend less money, and may be happier, though, the urge would never totally leave in this life. In a nursing home, i sure would have quit! I believe humans can do just about anything, if they set goals, and work, and let go, and really believe change is possible. Look at Johnny Cash. Quit narcotics, got help. I am sick of being an isolated loner, with no girlfriend. Kim is right. I do need to make changes now. Being an isolated loner, mainly because of dressing, is not healthy . If it takes quitting, and becaoming a social , balanced human being, i will give it up. I have waited 59 years for a GF. Dressing is hurting me chances, with the little time i have left. I would rather have a real life nice lady, than the fake in the mirror. Just sharing.
Narcotics addiction is a chemical dependence while many researchers now believe that cross dressing is due to something in our physical makeup possible due to something that occurred prior to our birth. Regardless of what causes cross dressing, giving up cross dressing is not the same thing as getting clean after being addicted to drugs. Doctors have drugs and treatments to help break drug addiction, but medical science doesn’t have anything to help stop cross dressing. The people in your church that say you should stop cross dressing may mean well but they are totally ignorant about cross dressing.
After more than forty-years of cross dressing I believe you may find that quitting is going to be extremely difficult if not impossible. Over the years there are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of threads here attesting to how difficult it is to quit. People have resolved to quit (purge) and thrown out everything, but the urge to dress returns, sometimes in only a few weeks or months, sometimes years later – for me it was years. When that urge returns it often returns with a vengeance and denying the urge can have some serious consequences such as depression, and depression can become life threatening.
Based on your posts and the pictures you have posted cross dressing has been and is a major part of your life. Reading your recent posts it sounds like you may now be suffering from depression and any attempt to quit might lead to even a deeper state of depression. If you stop cross dressing today what other changes are you going to make so that you are not an isolated loner, what are your plans for getting out and meeting people and making friends? You generally need some common interest to make friends. What other interests do you have that lend themselves to social relationships? Many hobbies and sports are good ways to meet people; golf is played with other people, there are clubs for people interested in photography, model railroading, etc. How often do you dress, every day? If not there is nothing stopping you from going out and meeting people on those days that you don’t dress, or is the urge to dress so strong that you’d rather stay home as Alice rather than break the isolation and get out, meet people, and maybe make some friends?
I don’t have any idea what your financial status is or what your health insurance covers, but you might want to consider some counseling or therapy.
Babs
I really don't understand why your Cding and social life has to be an all or nothing proposition? If you're just a CD, then odds are you're not dressed 24/7 anyway. I am just not of the belief that being a CD HAS to lead to isolation and loneliness. There's nothing stopping you, as far as I know, from joining a group (NON CD group) of some sort in your area and making some friends that way. Likewise you could take some classes in a community college and make friends like that. You could go to a nightclub to hear some music and meet others with your musical tastes. If you fish you could take yourself to some public fishing hole and odds are you will meet others there doing the same thing. Strike up a conversation. There's a host of things you could do. Why does CDing have to permeate all aspects of your life? Why can't it be a separate but still important part? I guess my assessment would be different if you were a transsexual, but it doesn't sound like it is that way.
It just seems to me that there is something else going on here and that blaming the CDing for all of your life's problems is just an easy excuse. I may be wrong. I just can contemplate CDing being the cause of all life's ills. As far as getting a GF, I agree that AFTER SOME TIME you should, indeed, tell her about your CDing. But, if you're meeting women and your opening line to them is that, "I'm a CD. Would you like to go out with me?", I would say that is a very bad approach.
Maybe I'm missing something else in your story. Please correct me if I am.
Unfortunately, Alice, you are very unlikely to manage to quit CDing. Your main problems are:Originally Posted by Alice Torn
1. You don't accept this about yourself, so you flagellate yourself emotionally over something you literally can't change.
2. You live in a narrow-minded hick town full of hateful people who don't understand this stuff.
I apologize for the bluntness of those statements - I say them with love.
There is no "treatment" of this in the same sense that there is treatment for narcotics. The treatment for CDing is acceptance of this part of yourself.
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