I am the same person no matter how I present myself to the world. My wife would like the CDing to dissappear or be "cured". I know she doesn't nessesarily see me the same since I came out but I am the same.
I am the same person no matter how I present myself to the world. My wife would like the CDing to dissappear or be "cured". I know she doesn't nessesarily see me the same since I came out but I am the same.
It's just me, being in a dress or jeans, it's still just me. But the wife knows Tina well, as what she thinks, I guess you would have to ask her if you could, I can't speak for how she feels, but how she acts, that I know. She has always bought presents for Both my male persona and my female persona. In fact some of my most expensive things come from her, I'm to cheap to spend it on me.
Before going shopping she always wants to know if Tina needs anything, she refers to Tina only in the third person, one on one, she calls me by my given name, she sees me as one being, so two names just doesn't work for her. Even in the third person, it's only when in public, as in "do you think Tina would like this". But that's to save me being embarrassed, not her thinking of two different people.
As far as how she feels about it, I can't say, but she treats Tina very nicely, so why would I risk upsetting the apple cart if you know what I mean, I'll take how she treats me over how she feels about it anytime, if she felt bad I don't think it would be that comfortable for Tina, so I guess that is an endorsement of sorts.
Magic is the art of changing consciousness at will.
Not two different people. She has accepted my feminine side and that I CD, but struggles with it, as do many women who have CD S/O's. I do not have a separate persona anyway. She is however, seeing me differently now that I have revealed my feminine side. And as I accept it more and become more comfortable with it, she is seeing it a bit more. (fem side, not actual dressing) What She feels is that I am changing, whereas I am merely coming to grips, and accepting for myself what I have always been. So, I do not feel a change that she feels. It is a change for her though, and something we who have revealed after a commitment or marriage have to understand. It IS a change, and a big one for them, even though we do not feel the change.
Chickens should be allowed to cross the road without having their motives questioned
Awesome wife!!
I have separated from my wife for 3 years, in that time I started to crossdress. I came out to her 2 years ago and nothing was said. It was her birthday so I texted her "happy birthday". the answer I got is she doesn't know to reply. Now my wife is pretty conservative and unforgiving so I doubt I will understood. Most of my kids and grandkids know and support me. But at my age I figure what the heck, I finally living my life with my rules.
My wife was very supportive and tolerant at first, but as dressing (and Sarah) consumed more time and $$ (and public outings) she became less so. She actually got to a point where it would have been either the CDing or her. She won, I guess, but the urge never goes away.
My wife knows of my dressing, supports it, and enjoys being part of it. She actually helped me discover crossdressing. She made me buy my first pair of high heels when she asked if I enjoyed her in heels and how sexy heels made me feel. She believes cro0ssdressing brings me a lot of enjoyment and wants me to be happy. Happy crossdresser, happy life. Crossdressing is something we share and we both feel it has increased the intimacy in our relationship. There is a secrecy, a naughtiness, a non-conventional behavior that we share. We communicate about all aspects - even outfits to wear and hairstyles. We enjoy roleplaying. We have gone on crossdressing weekends together. We often wear the same sexy pajamas. We have a few pair of the same heels. I usually get home first and she sends me messages to change rapidly so she can eat dinner and watch TV with her best friend Heather. We make crossdressing fun, sexy, mutual. I know I am fortunate and I always let her know how much I appreciate her and her enthusiasm.
WOW!!! You are living my dream!!! Your wife is AWESOME!!!! I am so happy for you and so jealous too!!!! I would love to meet an understanding woman like that
To answer your question, no she does not, but her credit card company does!
After searching my lingerie drawers, I have come to the conclusion that they lied. Ruffles don't have ridges. At least mine don't.
I think she accepts me. I dress every day. I do not hide my purchases from her (she occasionally compliments my dresses and hair style). Christmas presents to me from her were jewelry and stemware.
My wife considers me to be ME and just feels that the crossdressing thing is just a mental disease and an affliction propagated by some kind of misfortunate upbringing. Evidently I missed out on all of the man training to make me want to snatch fish from the water, (you can buy them at the grocery store) and spend thousands of dollars to go faster than that other guy. Maybe if she would get to know Carla a little better, Charles would have more inclination to kill things and fart more. Sure, I can be two people. Maybe even more. Hmmm?
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
My wife has never in 25 years thought of my feminine side as a 'second self'. I am who I am with crossdressing as an integral part of me. Pretty cool IMO. I have brought up the subject a few times, but she never bit. I do not use my female name around her, though she knows I use it when shopping or other CD related stuff.
With that in mind she does think of me as a CD only, with a bit of fetishism tossed in. I mentioned that I lean more to the TG manifestation / definition but that upsets her, thinking that it damages our relationship. She will not acknowledge that CD/TG/TS is a full range of feelings.
She wants to have me as a CD only, and does support and compliment me when I dress en femme. I can live with that trade off.
