My wife has never in 25 years thought of my feminine side as a 'second self'. I am who I am with crossdressing as an integral part of me. Pretty cool IMO. I have brought up the subject a few times, but she never bit. I do not use my female name around her, though she knows I use it when shopping or other CD related stuff.
With that in mind she does think of me as a CD only, with a bit of fetishism tossed in. I mentioned that I lean more to the TG manifestation / definition but that upsets her, thinking that it damages our relationship. She will not acknowledge that CD/TG/TS is a full range of feelings.
She wants to have me as a CD only, and does support and compliment me when I dress en femme. I can live with that trade off.
