She's known about my passion for years but even now at times still doesn't understand. A small percentage of clothing is kept in my closets and drawers. She has gotten over the underwear/bra/lingerie thing....but still brings up the "But why?" question.
This may work for some of you...maybe it can be re-arranged to suit your needs. I always answer with this statement...
("Dear, since I have no BASEMENT/CELLAR/GARAGE to set up my trains, or woodworking things, I enjoy dolling myself up...THAT is my hobby".)
It seems to work and it gives her some reassurance.
Granted she still wants her man, I also supply that end of it too.
She's seen a couple pics of me but still is kinda 50/50 support wise.
Good thing I never told her that I've been out in public dressed, lol.