Do not do anything without consulting with an attorney. In certain states if you leave the house it will be abandonment. Also, it is not up to her to determine if you should see the kids. Your crossdress ing may or may not be a problem but before we talk about feelings and opinion, STOP AND GET LEGAL ADVICE NOW!
Why would I know, because I have first hand knowledge. Get facts and this will empower the right decisions, the right way to disarm your spouse, and get the courts involved to ensure the spouse is not impacting the children with nonsense.
Also go to the top five best attourneys in town so they are blocked from representing your spouse. Then act civil, use the court to protect your rights and the kids and learn what you can do to bolster your case which I would suggest if your spouse knows about this, or Facebook and such you will want to am cease and desist.
Message me if you need but don't listen to anyone but a top notch attorney and get in there first.
Vanny
