In a post titled Apologizing to my spouse. TroublesGalore wrote of being wrong in assuming her wife's beliefs regarding crossdressing.
That post brought up some interesting questions in my mind for those that have not disclosed their crossdressing to their wife/SO/girlfriend:
- Could you be wrong about your belief that it is better to keep it a secret?
- Could you be misjudging her, giving her less credit for love & understanding than she deserves?
- Could you be harboring needless anxiety and stress, or is the anxiety and stress a positive addition to the excitement of crossdressing?
I do not want to imply that the decision to disclose one's legitimate need to crossdress should be taken lightly. This can be, by many first hand accounts, an incredibly difficult discussion. It has lead to the breakup of otherwise solid marriages.
Nor do I wish to demean those that have not disclosed, or encourage any kind of disclosure. Only you know your specific situation and it would be most foolish for someone else, particularly me to claim a higher ground.
Why do people choose to keep their crossdressing a secret?
Best wishes
MsVal
