I'm new to this forum, but the reason I finally joined, after lurking for a year, was because my wife has forced me out of the closet.
My wife is an alcoholic, and gets abusive and aggressive when she drinks. A week ago, while we were arguing about another issue, she called me a bunch of names that were related to the lingerie she had discovered in my dressing room. The cat is well and truly out of the bag. By one token, I am happy that my secret is now out in the open and I don't have to hide it from her anymore. However I'm also now concerned she has a weapon she can use against me whenever she wants, or is confronted with difficult situations. I have children from my first marriage, and am concerned that she will reveal all to them. They don't need their lives complicated in this way.
I hadn't told her about my crossdressing activities precisely because I was scared of how she would react. Her anger and abuse make me think I was right to keep this part of me private. I suspect that our marriage is doomed.
That's why I have come to this forum. I have no one else to talk to about this. So, thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences.
