Quote Originally Posted by Badtranny View Post

The particular activity is less of an issue than the particular person. I think too many of the 'coming out gone wrong' stories are simply due to the CD just not knowing how to act appropriately with their new freedom.
I would definitely agree with this statement. I have read some posts and thought to myself, you just hit her with a huge change by the reveal, and before she can hardly begin to catch her breath, the changes start coming in, and then these same posters will talk about the difficulties of an unaccepting S/O.... "she freaked about the painted nails the shaved legs" etc etc. Those things may happen in time, or may not in her presence, but an S/O who chooses not to leave because of CDing alone, but then how it is presented is another matter altogether. The pace, or lack of communication when the changes start rolling in. It IS a big deal to them, any and all of it when there is change.