Thank you for those very good points Gendermutt. Your wife is aware and that troubles her a great deal. To disclose to others could unfairly increase her burden. You also mention that your responsibility to provide financial and other security for your family would be compromised through a general disclosure. For those that consider such things a necessary part of being a husband and father, that is a very big issue indeed.

Best wishes
MsVal
You are welcome for this and the other posts I made that you commented on. When it comes to my work, because of where I work, a disclosure that I am a CDer in of itself would not cause termination. But, it would likely make things very difficult and awkward for me. A disclosure to friends or family would likely be very devastating to her and my kids. Not all would have difficulties but I know some would. Some would alienate , others would likely do all they could to get her to leave me. My kids would be put into distress from bullying and picking. Life is what it is, and I have responsibilities. My life is better than it used to be. I can live with that. Great topic BTW.