Is it discrimination or is it validation? These lesbians are telling this guy that he is not a woman and therefore not invited to a women's only party. Isn't that what he wants? Seems to me that if they did include him, the message would be that they do not validate his transition … that he is, after all, "still a woman" - just like them.Originally Posted by LenGray
Also I don't think that he looks at his maleness as his chosen gender. He likely sees it as the gender that he has been since birth and that transition was in fact a gender reaffirming process rather than a gender changing process.
It would indeed be nice if all existing groups were all inclusive, if there was no difference between gay, lesbian, bi, straight, male, female, transmale, transfemale, intersex, agender, and all others, and if everyone were invited to all the parties. But this is not realistic. People do identify themselves as a part of one group more than the other.
The nature of transition itself is a statement that tells the world, "I am not a part of THIS group, I am a part of THAT one".
I'm sure that if this couple had decided to have their own party and had invited all their friends, lesbian and transmen alike, no one would have snubbed them.
