I’ve been down recently, and I think it’s because of some lies I’ve been telling myself. Here are a few. Repeat them everyday for a while and you can make yourself miserable! Please feel free to add your own.
1. No woman will ever date me and I’ll never be loved. If I just had an accepting SO, my life would be soooo much better.
2. Being trans means that I must suffer. Everything sucks from now on. Not many people have to deal with sh*t this deep.
3. Transition is inevitable, but I’m too old to do it, or I need to do it ASAP, or I should have done it when I was 18. I am not true to myself or complete unless I make a full transition. If I only had the guts, money, hairline, right employer, smaller frame, and opportunity, I would totally do it.
4. I was supposed to have been born a girl. Something went wrong with me in utero or early childhood. Or, my parents are to blame. I would have been more successful if only I had not been trans.
5. I missed out on my best years while I was closeted. Also, I only have a few decent years left before my face falls apart.
6. It was stupid to come out, because even though people say “Good for you!” they are really laughing behind my back and will never take me seriously or give me respect.