Army brat all my life. Strict but loving parents. Taught responsibility at a very young age. Man is the bread winner. Man kills the spiders in the cupboard. Yeah I was taught to control, by parents that were born during world war 2 and that's what they were taught by parents born during the great depression. I don't like control. I wouldn't say Barbie is submissive so much as she's not the spider killing, bread winning, control freak that Rich is. I'm still responsible but Barbie has taught me that I don't have to be the boss, I can share that responsibility, and yes let my wife take the reins when I'm having a bad day. And you know what? She does a damn good job