Chrissy, it is obvious that this is something that is bothering you. What would your wife do if you said "Dear, there is something that is bothering me that I'd like to talk to you about"? Chances are she would be concerned and willing to listen. Together, you might be able to work out a reasonable way to accommodate all of your needs.
I am out to my wife and the sentence I suggested above is pretty much the way that I broached the subject with her. We continue to communicate far better than we did before and we each have much more insight into the other's feelings.
